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Notebook thoughts: Part 2?

Is it true that if you're timid, fearful, or feel a loss of control in life, you're more inclined to be dominant in bed and vice versa? What makes a person lean sub/dom?

Also, has porn totally screwed us? How much has porn shaped our sexual wants/fantasies? I've watched porn since forever, as we all have, and I wonder if I like what I like because I like it or if it's because of porn.

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Sex as connection rather than performance.

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What makes simplicity beautiful?

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We criticize in others what we loathe in ourselves. I need to pay closer attention to this.

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What if I could do twenty push-ups? What if I wrote a book? What if I solved the Rubik's cube in less than 10 seconds? What if I could grasp the complexities of a black hole? Would that be enough?

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Why does writing a list of what I want for my life make me uncomfortable? Why does writing it down feel like such a daunting task? I keep putting it off.

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Alexithymia = Difficulty experiencing, identifying, and expressing emotions.

Why can't some people share how they feel with others? Fear? Low-self esteem? Inability or unwillingness to connect with others? Maybe it feels too overwhelming, too triggering. Perhaps they just don't like the other person.

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Like a math equation, what do I do with the remaining number (you), do I carry it (you) over? Does the number (you) become entrenched in the new sum (me)?

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